Forget jugdemental innuendos ... Do your part and move on

    Criticism is good. It exposes the wrong in an action. However if criticism is going to stall the progress of action, then there is need to worry.
 Picture this : We have exhibit A; one Okwembas in scene A, a ditch. a deep, dark, conical ditch. Trapped in with a shattered spinal cord after stumbling in high on alcohol.

 At scene 2; the top of the ditch, lies a bush with spear grass soaring over a nearby fence. A dark mist glidding over the plantain.
   Two people waking in opposite directions hear Okwembas' call for help. One, a self-made millionare taking an evening walk and the other a news reporter with a reputable public image. They hear the man's moan and lock eyes as though in accusation. The billionare increases his pace sensing a trap. He repositions his iphone from his wrist to his pocket as a safety measure. The reporter responds with a frown and stops dead in her tracks, jumps the fence and on realizing the deep pain of the man, she sits down and takes her time to console him and ask of  him about his condition.The billionaire in shame returns and, throws in his dear iphone for the man to call for help. One person would say that the one who did the good deed of throwing you a phone to call for help deserves more glory. For he implemented one of his "possibly many intentions". While one would give the credit to the one who did the noble deed. She stopped to console and querry an injurered stranger on a dark night. She possibly had many other things to do but decided to stop and help him. She showed him many of her noble intentions to help him by consoling him. But the truth is it is only our mystical stranger Okwembas who can tell what he needed more. The reporter's could have sensed the stranger was in deep pain and needed hope of his survival and tried to get information to contact his family. Or she may have wanted a good news story.

 Either way the little time she consoled him gave Okwembas some hope  despite her intentions.The billionaire's act of throwing in his phone to let the stranger call for help was a more practical and Okwembas could have been sober enough to recall a person's phone number who could offer him help. Or maybe he recognised the reporter and didn't want her to make a good news story out of him. Either way, the phone he threw in despite his intentions gave Okwembas an option of survival.

    Unfortunately we never get to know who played the bigger role in Okwembas' survival. Because it shouldn't matter. They each played their part and moved on. Their possibly selfish intentions resulted in good. Which is not the case today. Many people sit around and wine about the intentions of people who lend a hand to the needy. When a company donates an ambulance to a hospital "It wanted to appear on news" one onlooker lets an insult roll off his tongue. But the people who are dieing somewhere on a road do not in the least care why the ambulance was donated. The insincere act of the company is going to save his life. Imagine the reporter had turned a blind eye to Okwembas. God knows if the billionaire would have stopped to drop his phone. Even if he had, what if Okwembas was too drunk to dial a number , too injured for medical help and had a message to pass on before his demise. The chain event leading to his rescue would have been broken.
   Not that the intentions of one do not matter. Of course they do, If one is offering you help to keep you indebted to them then the wise decision would be to refuse it. But if help is being given to people who are not concerned with the selfish interests, why criticize and demoralize the would-be  followers in suit. Some public figures or companies just decide to avoid charity because the ripple effects would cause more harm than good.
   I believe we should judge actions on their effects and leave their motives to God. For even the purest of minds, will get a clouded vision when emotions set in.

Take time to replenish your body's positive emotions

It's only natural for humans to have the desire to spread happiness wherever they go. It's what we were created to do. Fairly enough making it abnormal for one to cause suffering and pain everywhere they go. But it so happens that a good number of people forget the golden rule of giving..

      When someone first hears such a statement he or she may get offended as it is too broad in meaning, in this case it hints on one of the biggest reasons people get weighed down by simple things.
 First of all we start from the root, as hinted earlier on we were created with the desire to do good. Which is a good thing, but then each person has a pool of emotions beaming in his body. The normal state is for the good emotions such as hope, satisfaction, gratitude , inspiration, love, amusement and many more to outweigh the negative emotions such as fear, jealousy, guilt, anger, revenge, aggression, discouragement, hate, blame, doubt and many more. But we get caught up giving off too many of the positive emotions, suppressing the negative emotions which destabilizes our body's composure.
   The negative emotions keep piling as the positive ones are being shed off to others. This continues for a while until the body reaches a breaking point, most times the sign start showing. One negative emotion at a time breaks through and takes over you. Then two, then three until the balance is completely broken. 

At this moment, all the suppressed negative emotions fly out like bats from a dark cave, soaring upwards in union, as though in mockery of your defeat. And all you can do is glare in confusion,... the only one they leave behind as a souvenir.
 However, this all is an illusion, in reality the only negative emotion that broke free was confusion and it has blinded you creating all kinds of illusions. This is a very bad place to be in. So bad that a simple thing like missing a bus, or loosing a phone could be the last straw that breaks the donkeys back. Figuratively speaking, as light as a single straw is so is the weight of such a circumstance under normal situations, but the timing is all it takes to crash the donkey. However all this can be avoided with ease.
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Step 1. Know what makes you truly happy
It is one thing to know what makes people happy, and it is another to know what you think makes you happy.  But knowing what truly makes you happy is the one thing that comes naturally, most times you didn't learn it from someone, but you taught it to yourself. Its the one thing you never notice yourself doing, but others notice it. It may take time to find but when found you should never let any circumstance stop you from doing it occasionally.
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Step 2. Drop any grudges you have 
 Grudges take a lot of thought memory. To the point that merely seeing a person can ruin your whole day, which will come back to haunt you when your stock of positive emotion depletes.

Step 3.Take some time to resolve some of the arguments you had
One of the hardest things to do is be a good looser, one who admits  after loosing an argument, but debating who was truly wrong when you are alone can reduce the bulk of pride beaming in you.
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Step 4. A humble reply is always better than silence or an aggressive one
Many people choose to ignore negativity, which is good, but as it piles up it can easily break you down. Others choose to attack it head on with aggression in the opposite direction which can have dire consequences in the long run such as enmity
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And Finally, the biggest step in restoring your positive emotions is finding solace in God, it may not look much that time but when the confusion settles and the scales fall of your eyes, you will see he was always there for you.

Me vs. the proverbs: the absurd and outdated

Being a Virgo has certainly started to take its toll on me. I don’t really believe in star signs especially the ones sold to innocent people desperate for encouragement, but I do believe in the possibility of people born in a particular month sharing particular character traits. That’s what the world does. It gets God’s work and finds a way to make it a more “celestial” way to explain it to humans. Belonging to Virgo leaves me an active thinker, I always debate anything before it settles in my head, and sometimes it occurs deep in my subconscious without my consent, the English proverbs inclusive.

   
 Here is my problem, these proverbs are to be taken literally, and yet we live in a practical world, and secondly most of them were intended for minority groups, in minority situations, and lastly times change, some are just outdated.

       Curiosity killed the cat;

The proverb everyone has used once at least in their life. It is a warning for people not to poke into things that do not concern them. But really let’s think about it, how would you know what concerns you and what doesn’t if you are clueless about what is being discussed? And even worse, if you are clueless about what is being discussed behind your   back, how do you decide what concerns you and what dosen't? How sure are you the people discussing behind your back are not planning to kill you, would it hurt to ask the scary guy in the dark alley if he had any evil plans that night before passing by him? No! Would it hurt to ask the Grim Reaper what he’s doing in your car seat when driving down a dark road high on alcohol? No! So why would someone ask another person to stop asking questions about things that their brain doesn’t fathom?
     My theory: This proverb is not fully a fact; ironically it only applies to people who have lost their sense of curiosity. And all that time without practice has left them armatures at the art of asking questions. And the only time they try to ask them, they literally die from curiosity.

Case solved: Curiosity killed the wrong cat and I have the world’s greatest genius to prove my theory

    Keep your friends close and your enemies closer.

For this experiment, you will need a lion, a jaguar and a leopard and a blue room. Yes blue is the color for dramatic effect. Then place them into the same room and drop in the fattest goat you can find, and see how much 3 enemies living together is a bad idea.

Case solved: keep your harmless enemies close, and your harmful friends closer.

      The pen is mightier than the sword

I’m done listening to literal meanings, I bet the exaggeration in our daily speech is the reason the world's  scientists have not yet found the key to its biggest mysteries, nuclear fusion inclusive. First of all we live in the era of facebook and emails.  Countries have literally gone to war over one president not accepting the other's request or a mere follow back, and now you tell me a pen is mightier than a sword. Go back to the blue room, hopefully the lion is still alive, bruised, but alive, on the ground is a pen and sword, let's see which one you pick. For your sake i really hope you do not pick the pen.

Case solved: the sword is mightier than the pen, but once in a while the pen will get lucky and cause more damage or prevent it.

      A picture is worth more than a thousand words

I wrote a special poem for this one;

STEVE: the idiot

Steve was leading a rebellion.

Marching day and night into oblivion.

Steve wanted to inspire his army,

Show them a picture of a stash of gold he did,

Steve died alone on the battlefield
      By Lincoln Nidoi

Case solved: a picture is worth more than ten words

      Necessity is the mother of invention.

The key to the madness in this proverb is in my previous blog post.

Case solved: Laziness is the mother of necessity and invention, they are siblings, (the father being boredom but he doesn’t like to be associated with his kids very much, so let’s leave him out of this)

     Good things come to those who wait

I see what this proverb implies but I just do not see how this applies to all situations. First of all you can wait for a phone call from the lottery team and your land lord calls instead, and the most likely probability is you can wait for your pen to turn into an airplane and you will die before seeing it happen.(for all those who have ever got bored in class with only a pen and creativity at their hands)

Case solved: good things will come to those who wait wisely

And finally the biggest lie of them all;

       Practice makes perfect

No one can ever be perfect. To prove this theory we are going to have to go in the opposite direction, let’s say you are practicing to write with both hands accurately, and the pen slips on one side forming a crescent , perfection would not mean never making this mistake again, perfection would be making the same mistake two more times, the first time (second time) being coincidence, the second time (third time) being perfection

Case closed: practice makes … (am still thinking about this one)

And so as you can see, a good number of the proverbs we use are either outdated, absurd or apppeal to the minority today, and thus “I will none of their usage, this day forth...”

PS: I am right on all counts and I have a 2,000 paged Oxford Dictionary plus a dead genius to prove it!

Is the world getting lazier??

The world’s once richest and now lingering somewhere in the top three once said if he was to employ a person to do a job, he would choose a lazy person because he would find the easiest way to do it. Bill Gates consciously or unconsciously inspired a lot of lazy people, and they would later return the favor. It has always been said that necessity is the mother of invention but nobody ever said anything about what causes innovations, my theory: laziness.

   The things invented show the need for need for their presence. The innovations are just pure laziness. A wise man invented a plow to help him crack the hard ground faster, the lazy man added a seat to it, another wise man invented a wheel to transport goods with ease, the lazy man still found a way to add a seat  to it. The steam engine followed the same fate, invented in the industrial revolution to transport goods and some lazy guy still found a way to add thousands of seats to it as the space for goods grew smaller, enough with the seats though; I believe I have stressed that point enough. On to the other lazy innovations that we hail today. A wise Chinese man invented paper, another wise man sat down and invented the printing press, the lazy man sat down and decided mankind should not suffer the burden of hard copper buttons and decided to make them plastic, then came the emails, and here we are today, but am not done yet. Look at the multimedia industry, radios replacing the newspapers, then televisions brought to replace radios and the  phones, invented for communication, now they play music and do online shopping.
   
      It seems the world is demanding more for ways to make life fun and easier instead of work easier. The difference is in whether or not the improvement bears productivity; take for example the invention of bulbs, largely for people to work better in the dark, today they are used for the opposite, fun at night. Steel invented for heavy duty constructions is being used for construction of watches and the computers invented for work are being improved each day to do less work and more play, let’s face it we are the laziest generation to have ever roamed this earth and we can’t blame the scientists for we are the ones who heap the pressure on what we term “necessities”.
      Then came the monster called the internet, invented still for productivity, look at what the innovators have done with it, am sure they are proud of their work.  They deserve a good pat on the back for changing the meaning of friends and followers. One went as far as adding the word "unfriend" to the dictionary. It was obvious some people were tired of visiting friends, or even too lazy to socialize. Then came the sister in crime, the computer, changing the meaning of games with videos games breaking entertainment product sales records time and again.
Despite all that has been said we have to love our generation because we may have invested in innovations but they do make life worth living. But i couldn't leave without announcing the laziest invention/innovation of all time;

Mr Eugene J Polley you take the crown prize for coming up with the remote control, anybody can see you were tired of walking to your television and pressing the dial button and closely behind the guys who put seats on the plow to later name it a tractor.

The field of medicine is no exception; medicine that was invented to keep people sane is now being used to drive people literally insane. I can't possibly exhaust the extent of our laziness but am sure you can come up with more examples.
And with that i rest my case, yes the world is getting lazier and coming up with better word for the laziness and unless people start pressing for inventions, we will only keep getting lazy a*s innovations!!