It's only natural for humans to have the desire to spread happiness wherever they go. It's what we were created to do. Fairly enough making it abnormal for one to cause suffering and pain everywhere they go. But it so happens that a good number of people forget the golden rule of giving..
When someone first hears such a statement he or she may get offended as it is too broad in meaning, in this case it hints on one of the biggest reasons people get weighed down by simple things.
First of all we start from the root, as hinted earlier on we were created with the desire to do good. Which is a good thing, but then each person has a pool of emotions beaming in his body. The normal state is for the good emotions such as hope, satisfaction, gratitude , inspiration, love, amusement and many more to outweigh the negative emotions such as fear, jealousy, guilt, anger, revenge, aggression, discouragement, hate, blame, doubt and many more. But we get caught up giving off too many of the positive emotions, suppressing the negative emotions which destabilizes our body's composure.
The negative emotions keep piling as the positive ones are being shed off to others. This continues for a while until the body reaches a breaking point, most times the sign start showing. One negative emotion at a time breaks through and takes over you. Then two, then three until the balance is completely broken.
At this moment, all the suppressed negative emotions fly out like bats from a dark cave, soaring upwards in union, as though in mockery of your defeat. And all you can do is glare in confusion,... the only one they leave behind as a souvenir.
However, this all is an illusion, in reality the only negative emotion that broke free was confusion and it has blinded you creating all kinds of illusions. This is a very bad place to be in. So bad that a simple thing like missing a bus, or loosing a phone could be the last straw that breaks the donkeys back. Figuratively speaking, as light as a single straw is so is the weight of such a circumstance under normal situations, but the timing is all it takes to crash the donkey. However all this can be avoided with ease.
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Step 1. Know what makes you truly happy
It is one thing to know what makes people happy, and it is another to know what you think makes you happy. But knowing what truly makes you happy is the one thing that comes naturally, most times you didn't learn it from someone, but you taught it to yourself. Its the one thing you never notice yourself doing, but others notice it. It may take time to find but when found you should never let any circumstance stop you from doing it occasionally.
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Step 2. Drop any grudges you have
Grudges take a lot of thought memory. To the point that merely seeing a person can ruin your whole day, which will come back to haunt you when your stock of positive emotion depletes.
Step 3.Take some time to resolve some of the arguments you had
One of the hardest things to do is be a good looser, one who admits after loosing an argument, but debating who was truly wrong when you are alone can reduce the bulk of pride beaming in you.
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Step 4. A humble reply is always better than silence or an aggressive one
Many people choose to ignore negativity, which is good, but as it piles up it can easily break you down. Others choose to attack it head on with aggression in the opposite direction which can have dire consequences in the long run such as enmity
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And Finally, the biggest step in restoring your positive emotions is finding solace in God, it may not look much that time but when the confusion settles and the scales fall of your eyes, you will see he was always there for you.
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